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6 Lessons Learned As a Caregiver

March 22, 2017 by Keith Lauby 2 Comments

Not long ago, Sharlyn wrote a post on lessons learned while she was recuperating from her ankle surgery. A reader commented on the post, mentioning the role of caregivers during recovery. I thought it would be a great idea to extend that conversation here.

Being a caregiver wasn’t new to me. While my classmates attended after-school sports and educational events, I rushed home to help care for my mom. She contracted what is now called COPD (Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease) when I was seven and medicine at the time could only make her as comfortable as possible as she slowly declined over the next ten years.

I learned many caregiver lessons then. But times change and so do some of the needs and responsibilities of today’s caregiver.

The patient doesn’t want to be a patient. Yes, Sharlyn wanted a way to fix the growing pain in her ankle. But, she didn’t want to be limited in her exercise and activities and hobble around on crutches. That was just a necessary part of the recovery.

Get creative in finding ways for the patient to contribute. They might not be able to do much but this isn’t a vacation. It frustrated Sharlyn that she couldn’t contribute to helping with household needs. But she could read me recipes while I cooked, spend time doing internet searches for recovery solutions, and deal with phone calls to doctors and insurance providers.

Think about mental needs in addition to physical. Communication is never more important than during recovery. The physical repair to whatever was injured is just part of what the patient is dealing with. Think about and discuss the ramifications of limited activity over an extended period. And don’t forget about no access to hair and nail salons or maybe even daily showers.

Remember to give yourself a break too. Okay, the patient is depending on you. That might mean cutting back on trips to the gym, the morning run, or even some downtime playing games. Depending on the length of recovery, you might get a little out of shape too. It won’t last forever, then you can get back to it. And don’t forget #1 above.

The doctor is calling the shots now. As much as Sharlyn’s frustration grew, she knew how important it was to follow doctor’s orders. Carefully letting the body heal will pay huge benefits in fewer problems in the future. I had to remember that too whenever added responsibilities started to annoy me.

They would gladly do the same for you. And you know it.

If you’re like me, you develop routines and habits that make up your daily life. Caregiving is a major disruption to that. Remember to communicate more and pay close attention to everything that’s happening. You might just learn a few things that will make that daily life better.

Image captured by Sharlyn Lauby along the streets of Washington, DC

Bookmark This! Art and Culture Edition

March 15, 2017 by Sharlyn Lauby Leave a Comment

There are lots of old sayings about not being able to make a living as an artist. While I didn’t do it for a long time, I feel proud that one of my first jobs out of college was self-employed artist. Yes, I actually made a living producing limited edition serigraphs and etchings. It’s not the most glamorous job – I always smelled like paint thinner – but I did enjoy the creativity and being a part of the art community.

Now, I support the art community by trying to sneak off to museums when I travel. And I get creative fulfillment by writing and my hobbies (beading and counted cross stitch). But I’m finding it very cool that technology allows me to be a part of the art community in a new way. I have access to thousands of works of art via the internet and my mobile devices.

ICYMI – The Metropolitan Museum of Art released more than 375,000 public domain artworks online.

If you prefer more of a live experience, check out Google Field Trip. It’s available on iTunes and Android. Next time you’re out and about, open up the app and see the culture of wherever you are. A reminder that we live culture. It’s not just in museums on display.

Google has an arts and culture site that allows you to tour the Sydney Opera House and Taj Mahal. It also talks about art movements like street art and surrealism. You can view the site via your browser or their app (FREE on Android and iTunes).

Speaking of art, I like an app called DailyArt, available on iTunes and Android. Its premise is very simple. One art masterpiece a day, with a little bit of background about it. It takes less than a minute and you learn so much.

Another fave app of mine is called Today in History. If you’re into daily trivia, this is a site that tells you what happened on this day in history including battles, documents, and deaths. I also just noticed that it interfaces with the Apple Watch. I might have to check that out. It’s available on Android and iTunes for free. There’s a small purchase to eliminate ads.

This list doesn’t even include the art you can create on your own with adult coloring books. I so enjoy coloring apps like Recolor and Colorfy. In fact, I colored my favorite work of art for this post, Vincent Van Gogh’s Starry Night.

So, even if you don’t live near a museum, you can still be surrounded by art and culture.

Enough is Possible – #WordlessWednesday

March 8, 2017 by Keith Lauby 2 Comments

The best part of unretirement is freedom. We each get to decide what is enough – enough time spent working, enough revenue, enough free time doing the things we love.

Image captured in the Wynwood District of Miami, FL

Life – #WordlessWednesday

February 15, 2017 by Sharlyn Lauby Leave a Comment

There are three primary methods to learning – auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. These methods also apply to the way we express ourselves. In life, I’ve learned that images can speak as loudly as words. Specifically, when it comes to blogging, I’ve come to realize that the images I choose to share in a post are an additional way to communicate because people can interpret the images in various ways.

One of the features I’d like to include on this blog is a wordless Wednesday post. I’m not exactly sure how it got started but it’s the idea that on Wednesdays, bloggers post a photograph with no explanation except for the photo credit. Hopefully the image will inspire or just make someone think about life.

Hope you enjoy this first image! I’m looking forward to sharing more with you.

Image captured by Sharlyn Lauby in the lobby of her financial planner’s office

There Is No Such Thing As a Traditional Retirement

February 8, 2017 by Sharlyn Lauby 8 Comments

That’s why Keith and I started the Unretirement Project.

Years ago, I was the director of human resources, working for a major hotel chain. Our outside legal counsel would call and ask for a favor once a year. It was for lunch reservations on New Year’s Day at our restaurant. One time, I asked him about it and he told me that he and his wife sat down (on New Year’s Day) for a very long lunch to talk about life – their personal and professional lives. They talked about the things they wanted to do and stop doing.

Fast forward several years. When Keith and I started our HR consulting firm, ITM Group, we decided that talking about our business and personal lives was something we should do. Think of it as our own strategic planning session. In addition, we needed to talk about retirement. Specifically, what we wanted our retirement to look like.

Over the years, we’ve realized that the kind of retirement our parents had wasn’t in the cards for us. You know, work for the same company for 20+ years, announce your retirement, then hang out with friends, play cards, etc. There are a few reasons for this: 1) I’ll admit that I’m a workaholic and I cannot imagine not working. 2) We fell in love with this thing called blogging.

In 2008, we started a blog called HR Bartender. Keith wanted me to start writing an electronic newsletter for our consulting business. I was a bit reluctant to do so. No, the truth is I was a lot reluctant to do so. So, I mentioned blogging. I didn’t know anything about how to start a blog. Over the years, HR Bartender has done pretty well. The Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) has named it one of the Top 5 HR and Business Blogs read by human resources professionals.

So, we decided that we wanted our “retirement” or in this case, unretirement, to include blogging. Hence, the Unretirement Project was born.

A lot of people post pictures of the sunrise on their first day of retirement representing a new beginning in their lives. I decided to post a pen because I think unretirement is about rewriting the rules of retirement. I used this old pen in my corporate life and my consulting life. I have no intention of getting rid of it. I’ll just use it for new things. Unretirement is about finding more time to do the things you love and less time on the things that are a PITA.

I’m not exactly sure where our unretirement journey will take us. But I’m looking forward to finding out. One thing I do know is that unretirement doesn’t start at a specific age or time. You control your unretirement. The question is “Do you know what you want your unretirement to look like?”

Image captured by Sharlyn Lauby

Why Unretirement and Why It’s Important

February 1, 2017 by Keith Lauby 8 Comments

We remember what retirement used to look like. One day, you just stop working and start retiring – living off your company pension with a little help from Social Security. That’s what our parents did. Today, for the most part, all of that has changed.

To help us understand, we might want to look at what retirement really is. The Cambridge Dictionary defines retirement as “the point at which someone stops working”. If we accept that as the true definition of retirement, we can then understand the need for something new. The need for unretirement.

Unretirement is the move from working full-time to working . . . less. But it’s more than that. It’s working, but doing something we want to do. And getting paid for it. Most of all, unretirement is earning the opportunity to live on our own terms.

Best of all? It’s exactly what the labor market wants from us.

Right now, ten thousand people reach retirement age every day according to a recent Pew Research study. The National Institute on Aging reports that, on average, only 33 percent of retirees continue working full-time. The result is a growing labor shortage that is creating a real need for our skills.

In most cases, businesses don’t want to hire more and more full-time employees. But they are looking for skilled workers who want to help out and take on some of the work. This is called the gig economy, and finance company Intuit predicts that, by 2020, 40 percent of U.S. workers will fall into this category. In fact, entire enterprises such as Lyft and Airbnb have risen out of gig employment.

That’s where unretirement comes in. It’s identifying that encore career and understanding the best way for it to fit into our retirement life. Wikipedia defines encore career as “work in the second half of life that combines continued income, greater personal meaning, and social impact.”

Unretirement is also focusing on our health and wellness so we can get the most out of the fun things we want to do in retirement. We may have to upgrade a skill or two along the way. But no successful unretirement comes without a cost.

It’s time for a fresh perspective about life after work. It’s time for unretirement.

Image captured by Sharlyn Lauby while traveling in Maui, HI